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Bad Behavior Poll

The kid’s behavior lately has been ridiculous and totally out of control. Ashton just flat out tells me no for everything and Kaiden throws tantrums or pouts and could care less if we are in public or not. Today, after dance class, I tried to stop by the grocery store to grab some lunch meat for sandwiches. Kaiden said that she did not want to go to the store, and proceeded to have a full on meltdown in the deli section. It was so bad that we just left without getting anything. When we got home I told her to go to her room and shut the door and the fighting with me continued, to the point that I was ready to pop her butt, except that was no good cause she basically laughed in my face. I am at my wits end!!! So, that leads me to today’s poll, please vote and if you have words of wisdom, by all means, please leave them in the comments!

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I love reading stuff like this. I always think my girls are the only ones that behave horribly.
Posted by Mitch McDad on 2007-05-09 11:21:46 I voted to beat them within an inch of their lives even though I was cracking up laughing and thought it was the answer you were looking for. I always threatened to throw mine out the window (of my then 2nd story apartment!) But again would laugh out loud at the thought of not ever actually doing that either..... Good Luck. Mine goes on tangents as well. You think you should give them a warning before turning them black and blue. But they know that so if you count they know they have until 2 to actually do anything. Just start removing fingernails and string them up by their toes. I am sure DHS would agree! LOL!
Posted by Sweet Yet Sassy on 2007-05-07 10:38:48 Yay! Poll! :)
Posted by mel on 2007-05-06 19:57:35 Me again........I like what Bev had to say. I agree and have done all that she writes. I, also wanted to add to Brandy's comment, my children didn't have a TV in their room, maybe toys, but Heather (my daughter) wanted to act out, so toys didn't interest her.....she was trying to manipulate me in accepting her bad behavior. I also was told, how much of a BAD mother I was. I would answer, well I am the only mother you have. They didn't know what to say to this.
Posted by Sherry on 2007-05-06 17:10:26 I voted for taking privelidges away - but I also do "time outs" (and spankings when the first two mentioned don't work). It sounds like Kaiden and Kellynn are very similar with their behaviors, so I feel your pain. I thought I was going to lose it with Kellynn last weekend. She decided to SLAM her coloring book and pencil box on the floor when I told her she couldn't color with markers in the van. She then proceeded to tell me how much she hated me, and how I was the "meanest mommy on the world." I looked at her and said, "I will deal with you and this bad behavior in two minutes." I walked away. Sometimes you have to walk away, just to clear your mind. Kids are trying at times. I have shed many tears over mine - because of frustration. Just remember you're not alone. We, moms have to stick together!
Posted by NaeNae on 2007-05-06 14:11:32 I still vote for the ice cream.
Posted by Dena on 2007-05-06 12:10:44 Ooops...... I was clicking instead of typing. 1. Be CONSISTENT!! Doesn't matter if you're tired, sick, or near-death. 2. I tend to go with timeouts. It's easiest. If you do "this".... you get time out. They learn very quickly. 3. 1 warning, then act. Do not discuss, negotiate or argue with a child. 4. Never bribe a kid to behave. That's their job. If you bribe them, they'll figure out that they'll only behave if there's something in it for them. 5. Once you start a war... you have to win it. It doesn't matter if it takes 4 hours (and it can)...you have to win, and not get sucked into any discussion about it. 6. You and hubby have to be on the same page with this. 7. Pick your battles. Decide which behaviours you want to first work on, and go for those. 8. I also think that if Kaiden especially, has a tantrum, besides the time-out, she should lose a privilege, like TV, or something, just for the evening. 8. At the end of the day, when the kids are asleep, pour a strong one. hehehehe I could yabber on for ever about this stuff, just because I'm old, but I'm pretty sure you get the idea. ;)
Posted by Bev on 2007-05-06 11:25:49 I've worked with behaviour disordered kids for nearly 15 years. Obviously not just what you're talking about, but wild, crazy, punching, spitting, hitting, kicking, swearing full blown tantrums.
Posted by Bev on 2007-05-06 11:18:03 Kylie acted the same way at that age. I tried the sending her to her room thing for a while. But think about it they have T.V., Movies, More toys then Toys R Us. What worked for us was standing with your nose on the wall, and if she talked ugly or lied she stood there with a bar of soap in her mouth. It only took a few times and she learned. Now the threat of soap works.
Posted by Brandy on 2007-05-06 11:00:13 Haley has been the same way and I have wanted to crack her on her ass lately
Posted by shelly on 2007-05-06 09:28:56 I picked the first one, but the truth is all of the above. Depending on my mood, of course. ;)
Posted by Friglet on 2007-05-06 01:46:24 Oh man, I have NOTHING for this. Yesterday Duncan and I went shopping, he asked for a prize (which, I am a HUGE sucker and he gets one just about everytime we go anywhere - how's that for parenting?!) and I said yes. Because that's what I do. We are in the toy section... for ages, finally I tell him I'm bored, he needs to choose. He chooses. Then after a few minutes has a complete MELTDOWN because he didn't want it anymore. So. Basically, I give him what he wants and he is still pissed off about it. I put the toy down and he's not getting any "prizes" for a week. I agree with consistency. But hot damn, it's harder than it sounds.
Posted by Toryssa on 2007-05-05 23:29:43 How about taking them out for ice cream? That's a good punishment! ;)
Posted by Dena on 2007-05-05 22:03:28 I agree the you have to be consistent, it is so hard, but one mine, ages 5 and 14, understood that if I said something I meant it, they would walk all over me. Now they know if I say if you don't stop I'm gonna XXX that I will indeed do it. Good luck with it. It is so hard, this raising kids thing.
Posted by Judi on 2007-05-05 21:52:08 Oh I remember days like this.....it isn't easy. I punished the kids so much, they talk about it as young adults. They actually thank me now. Heather my daughter had temper tantrums. She was to stay in her room until she could act civilized. It was sooooo hard. She would yell, "I hate you".....after all that she would fall asleep and have a nap and apologize when she awoke. The main thing is to keep your word. If you say something you have to follow through. I hope it gets better for you. PS It was a full moon.
Posted by Sherry on 2007-05-05 18:38:41

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