I have been chosen to complete an interview by TJ over at Zazzafooky.  So here it goes!
WARNING – LONG POST AHEAD!!!

1. What is the most serious fight you’ve had with your husband, what happened?
Well, Todd and I have had a rough year.  Mostly because Ashton was so sick, I was suffering some pretty bad post-partum and we were lacking so much sleep.  After a while its wears on you and you find out how strong your marriage is.  So there has been a lot of quarreling over the past year.  But as far as single incident, knock down, drag out fights…hmmm.

I would have to say that the most serious fight happened around Christmas time in 2001.  I had just given birth to Kaiden that October.  Todd’s company’s main office is in Richmond, Virginia, which is about and hour and a half away from Virginia Beach.  They always have a real nice dinner at a fancy restaurant for the holidays and his boss gets all the couples that came in from Virginia Beach a room at a really nice hotel.  After dinner everyone goes out drinking.  Well this particular year, I wasn’t in the mood to stay out late drinking.  I had just had my first child a month and a half before, and I was tired.  Todd had already started drinking and was now ballsy enough to say that he was not done.  I looked at him and said…”Yes we are done” and we went back to our room.  Todd decided he was not and left me in the room.  I was livid.  He stayed gone for hours and would not answer his cell phone.  I finally called one of the other girl’s rooms and she told me that he and one other guy were partying in the cute receptionist’s room. 

I was so hurt.  Here I am, a new mom, who agreed to come to this stupid party, even though I did not feel comfortable being away from the brand new baby that long, and he did not have enough respect to stay with me.  He finally came back to the room at 6:30am and we got into it.  I was angry that he was in that girl’s room, that he had shown zero respect for his wife, etc., etc.  He proceeded to say some really, really shitty stuff and before I could even think twice, I slapped the shit out of him right across his face and left him in Richmond.  I told him he could get the receptionist to take him home and while driving home, he could think about what weekends he would want visitation for Kaiden.  He came home a little more sober and knew he was in the doghouse, and spent a good amount of time making up for it and saying “I cannot believe you actually freaking left me.” – Well believe it buddy!

This is one of three major fights that we have had.  All our worst fights have usually included him drinking liquor, which he does not do anymore.  Overall though, I am married to an extremely handsome, funny, hardworking man and am blessed.

2. Have you ever committed a crime, caught or not?
I have committed plenty of crimes!  C’mon TJ – I was a hellion until I settled down and had a family!  I did shoplift some when I was in Junior High and I have done my fair share of drug experimentation (the FDA has nothing on me).  I was pulled over once by a cop in a stolen car, but I don’t consider that my crime, because I did not know the car was stolen, I was just a passenger lusting over the guy that was driving it.  Now the worst thing that was ever done by ME would have to be when I was in 8th grade, so I was about 13 or 14 years old.  Now I am not sure that my parents know about this, so if you are reading mom, sorry. 

We were stationed in Newport, RI for one year so that my dad could attend the War College.  We knew we were only going to be there for a year, so we rented out our house in Virginia Beach and move into Fort Adams, which was an all Officer Navy housing development sandwiched right between the actual Fort Adams, which dates back to 1824 and the Eisenhower House, built in 1873 for the Commandant of Fort Adams and became President Eisenhower’s home between 1958 and 1960.

Fort Adams was fenced off for a long time and considered condemned, but we used to sneak through a whole we cut into the fence and run around in all of the underground tunnels.  One day, while a couple of friends and I were playing there, right outside the fort walls on a large grassy hill that led up to the fort, we found a pack of matches and started flicking them from the pack, igniting them as they went flying.  Each one would start a small fire and we would stomp it out.  Well one of the fires would not go out and once the wind hit it from the Narragansett Bay, the fire took off and was uncontrollable.  It got so big.  I have never been so scared in my life.  We ran for help.  The Fort Adams fire department had to call in the Newport Fire department because it was so out of control and was close to burning down the whole damn fort.  The firemen kept asking us if we knew what happened and we kept telling them no, that we were just out walking and found it.  You could tell they DID NOT believe us at all.

The next day, after the fire was out; one of the girls and I walked to the fire department and told them that we did not want to give names but that we knew who had started the fire and that it was an accident.  The fireman was very understanding towards us, considering the circumstances and lectured us on the dangers of fire and asked if we understood how serious that particular fire was?  He restated that a historical landmark could have been lost.  We were very aware of that!  I never played with fire again, that’s for damn sure!

3. You are confronted with “Sophie’s Choice.” You must choose. Who, and why?
TJ, this is a tough one, but knowing me, I would not be able to make a choice and would probably end up sending both of my children to death.  I would not be able to live with the guilt of having to choose and I would not want my child to have to live with the guilt of knowing they were the “chosen” one.  A life with that much guilt is no life at all in my mind.  I would probably send them both and then find a way to kill myself so that I could join them. 

Of course it is really hard to say what you would do until you are faced with that situation.  I am sure that there is a flooding of emotions and adrenaline that we could not even imagine in a normal setting that would affect any type of rational thinking.  I can only hope that I will never be faced with a decision like that in my lifetime!

4. What are you most proud of yourself for? What about most disappointed?
I would say that I am most proud of the person that I have become.  As you can tell from reading about me, I was a big trouble maker.  I am pretty sure my mom was convinced she had the devil on her hands.  But from that, I have managed to create, what I feel is a successful career that is still growing, I have married a wonderful man and had two beautiful children, maintained some really close friendships, mended the past with my parents and through it all I have maintained a great sense of humor.

I would have to say that my greatest disappointment would be the wasted potential.  I am extremely smart and quick to learn.  Things come so easily to me that others struggle to grasp.  If I had harvested an understanding of that at an earlier age and used it, who knows where I would be right now?


5. A friend confides to you that he has committed a particular crime and you promise never to tell. Discovering that an innocent person has been accused of the crime, you plead with your friend to give himself up. He refuses and reminds you of your promise. What should you do? In general, under what conditions should promises be broken?
TJ, I feel that age and maturity plays a big role in the answer to this question. 

When I was younger and the smartest, most indestructible person in the world (according to me), I would have stood by my friend, come hell or high water, no matter who took the rap for it in the end.  That’s what friends do.

Now that I am older, I would not want someone innocent to pay for someone else’s wrongdoing.  I guess now I always have a little voice that says “What if it was one of my kids?”  Would I want Kaiden to take the rap for someone else?  HELL NO!  I consider myself a very good friend, and I am pretty sure that those who are friends with me feel the same way.  I am extremely loyal and would do anything for a friend.  But if it crossed the line, I would break a promise to save someone innocent from being punished.  I would not flat out tell, until it was a necessity, but when it became necessity, I would.  Mainly because it’s just the right thing to do and I DO know the difference between right and wrong.

Okay, I hope that you are satisfied with my answers.  And if whoever reads this, thinks less of me now than they did before, then so be it, they should probably exit now, because it only gets worse from here.  Now in keeping up with the interviewing…if anyone wants to be interviewed, leave me a comment and I will think up some questions.